In Japan there is an art form called kintsukuroi which means “to repair with gold”. When a ceramic pot or bowl would break, the artisan would put the pieces together again using gold or silver. This would create something much stronger.
The breaking is something to be proud of. Embracing every flaw and imperfection. Every crack is part of the history of the object and it becomes more beautiful, precisely because it had been broken. If we have been broken due to the various curve balls of life how can we now use the art form of Kintsukuroi to rebuild us?
It’s time to rebuild your bowl with the gold – your gold, your language to create something stronger, more beautiful, than it was before. To do this we need to be more conscious of our language. I use the term ‘Language Alchemist’ to describe my work, transforming your language into (pure) “gold”.
Learning a new language, the language of your mind
Uncovering and unlocking vital information about the mechanics of your thoughts
By repairing broken pottery it’s possible to give a new lease of life to it that becomes even more refined thanks to its “scars”. Let’s look at it in the form of our language, how our language can hold us back and restrict us in staying within our problems. The alchemy of my work transforms your “base” unconscious and ineffective communication patterns that we use on a daily basis to a high standard of thinking. Being aware of our habitual language patterns that keep us stuck in low limiting beliefs. Let us now change it into the gold that it can be. Raising the standards of your internal and external language patterns, being more consciously aware of how our habitual language can impact us from day to day.
The Kintsukuroi teaches us that broken objects are not something to hide but to display with pride, learn from the lessons that are given to you, this is the essence of resilience. The resilience of our language, our thoughts and our emotions that we attach to various life events.
As Helen Keller an American Author once said: Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through the experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.
Did you know that 95% of your emotions are determined on how you talk to yourself? Every thought we think is creating our future. Once we are aware of this we can start to create thoughts that will support us in creating a great life. We can then really begin to be aware of what we don’t want in our lives and reframe it. Most people think, think, think and don’t take any notice of it. Training ourselves to be aware of our thinking.
Understanding that specific events don’t have inherent meaning, rather that we are the ones that assign a meaning to an event. We assign an emotional attachment to an event that can end up defining who we are.
Let’s look at simple generalisations within our conversations. How many times do we use generalisations? How often do we assume? How often are we using universal quantifiers? How often do we start a sentence with a negative structure? How often am I hearing should, could, must? Language needs to have intention. For permanent, lasting change we need the language to have stronger connotations to it. A high standard of thinking creates permanent, lasting change.
Negative language structures have negative impact on us – it’s as simple as that – TJ
The more that you practice becoming aware of your language structures the better you will become. The more you focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want you will see huge results. We are not taught about the power of our language and the impact it can have on us.
As an example, I think of the day I was walking the Santiago de Compostela and I had the most excruciating pain from under my foot going up the left side of my right ankle. We still had 20kms to complete from our 36 kms walk that day, so instead of focusing on the pain, I focused on the fact I had strong body and strong feet to enable me to complete the 20 kms that we had left. I stayed focused on the beauty around me; I stayed focused on my gratitude of having 27 days out of my business; I stayed focused on my strong body. This enabled me to complete the walk that day. I hobbled into the last village, but I completed it. I focused on what I wanted, which was to complete the 36 kms that day, rather than focusing on the pain in my foot. The power of my mind, the power of my language.
I have learnt about the power of our thoughts and how we can overcome our limiting beliefs. I now challenge these beliefs daily.
My Kintsukuroi bowl has been rebuilt since growing through a difficult time. However, to have begun to rebuild this bowl I needed support. I needed an artisan to show me how to rebuild it, and now I am proud of the gold that is running through it. I might drop it again over the coming years but now I know how to pick up the pieces and rebuild it even stronger than it was previously. Do you need an artisan to help you in your life? I had a couple of different Artisan’s at the time, one being a life coach and another an EFT Healer (Emotional Freedom Technique). What Artisan do you currently need to support you?
That is my role as a ‘language alchemist’. My role is to go deep, delving down deep into people’s beliefs about themselves. Not surface level but deep rooted. I personally now work on my mind as often as I eat and drink. We are told to eat healthily and drink often to nourish our bodies. We are told to exercise, but how often are we told to look after our minds? What we put into our minds and the way we speak has a huge impact on our physiology. Going directly into the unconscious and rewriting how you think of yourself and your future is the key to permanent change. Raising the bar on your self-awareness.
If we keep responding to our circumstances and our relationships in the same way we have since our younger years, we are communicating habitually. Ask yourself what are your habitual language patterns? Are these serving you? Are you focused on what you want or what you don’t want? When was the last time you spent time understanding your habitual language?
The language you speak is a language you learned. So, you already have the capacity to learn to speak a language that will empower you and keep you focused. Challenge the negative internal dialogue. Why do we enable the negative dialogue to take control of us time and time again?
As we think in this way you will start to see your energy levels and motivation increase too! You might not remember to do this every day! AND THAT’S OK! As we are beginning to build a new habit with our language, this takes time. This is a new way of thinking for some and building a new habit can take time. We are rebuilding your bowl, rebuilding the bowl with the gold of your language…
My mantra: You can’t change what happens to you but you can change the way you feel about it.
I have personally taken on responsibility for my language patterns. I now firstly point the finger back at myself. I changed my mindset. I became aligned. I retrained my brain. I don’t always get it right. I can still slip into old habits, but I’m more aware now when it happens and can quickly reframe and challenge my thoughts.
Conscious growth meant aligning myself with certain core principles which serve as growth accelerators. What a huge learning curve, I realised that when you live in alignment you experience faster, more consistent progress and deeper levels of fulfilment.
You need the same amount of energy to stay in your limits than it takes to remove the resistance and get what you really want. Resistance is what our excuses are made of.
There is only one person responsible for the quality of your life and only one person who holds that power to make it possible and that’s YOU.
I train people to understand the power of their language. The human brain is made up of over 100 billion brain cells that each connect to over 7000 other brain cells. It’s more complicated than a computer, and who controls that brain ? YOU !
My advice – make room in your life for personal development. As a language alchemist, I delve into what we need to support you in moving forward. Looking ahead and empowering you through the power of language, your language.
To therefore experience growth we need to cultivate resilience. When we come across setbacks we can choose to take responsibility for the situation by assessing how we got into the situation in the first place and what can we now learn from the situation. What do we need to take with us into the future aspect of ourselves?
Take this thought: I’m sitting in the car and putting my destination into the Sat Nav. I know where I’m going and I’m looking through my windscreen, but now and again I need to look into the rear view mirror to check what’s behind me.
Let’s put this into the context of our lives, we need to be looking forward and we also need to dip into our pasts from time to time to get specific learnings to support us with moving to our next destination.
I will ask the question: Are we looking into that rear view mirror more than we are looking through our windscreen? What happens when we do this? Think about it. That rearview mirror is small for a reason, and the windscreen is larger for a reason. I need to have a clear view of where I’m going.
To support us with this we can use our: Personal Emotional Strategy (PES)
The success to change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new. To maintain peak performance within your life, I will give you the tools and strategies to imbed the PES into your everyday routine. Enabling you to challenge the mechanics of your mind. Each of us will have our own unique PES, unique to our own thoughts, beliefs and decisions.
When thoughts, feelings and your language are compatible with each other, we obtain the perfect environment for creating. Ask yourself the question?
• What’s my intention?
• What’s my outcome?
• To achieve this outcome how do I need to be? Emotionally? Use the PES, my PES.
Even top performers and top entrepreneurs “check-in” before they do anything . They ensure they go into meetings at peak performance and the bottom line of this means being in control emotionally, being in control of their PES.
A CEO of a company understands for him/her to make the best decision for the company he/she needs to be making those decisions at their emotional best. Their prefrontal cortex and hippocampus need to be aligned. The amygdala has to be rested and not in flight or fight mode.
Emotions provide us with valuable sources of information. So why aren’t we understanding the true power of this? Let’s begin to use our emotions to support us, to now give us vital key pieces of information about us. This will enable us to become more resilient in times of need.
Would you like to learn more about your unique PES?
Contact me at: info@TJlife.net
All my love,
TJ xx
